If for you the meaning of “it’s beginning to look a lot like Christmas” means you’re locked in the bathroom hyperventilating because you don’t have time for the merry little meltdown you’ve been working toward, this one’s for you …
It’s just Christmas. There’s really no wrong way to do it. Really. As my friend pointed out this morning during one of our mental health checks: "this isn’t the only Christmas they’ll have.” Meaning, you don’t have to get it all done this year. If it helps, try making a list of all the things you wanted to do but didn’t as a way of getting it out of your head. Now, you’re looking at what I call my “Maybe next year” list. Essentially, this is a perpetual list of crafty projects, baking, tokens of gratitude, Christmassy activities and a few random things that don’t get done, like getting a star-topper for our tree. Again. Whatever. It’s still Christmas in two days and this is me letting go of the sinking ship that is holiday stress. I can’t find Sam’s mittens. So, we’ll have to buy new ones on the road. Or he’ll have to learn to rub his hands together fast and blow on them. Or whatever. “Find gloves” is officially off my list. As well as 29 other things I can’t possibly get done between now and tomorrow morning so I might as well stop pretending and start enjoying the magic that is joyful anticipation. I know I’m not alone – which is why I’m leaving “encouraging blog post” on my list.
Remember this: the memories that matter, the moments that we remember, the magic … you can’t make those – they just are. Take a deep breath, be patient with others—and more importantly yourself—remember the whole point of the season: love, grace, gratitude, celebration of blessings … and if you’re the Jesusy type, there’s that. (But even if you’re not the type, despite my reluctance I have become one, I think celebrating the love, grace and gratitude counts for a lot!)
If you’re still with me, I’d like to invite you to take a moment to spread a wave of grace and allow some to wash over yourself. You deserve it.
Haven’t finished everything “in time”? Forgive yourself. Someone being an asshat and ruining your celebration plans? Do not let them. Their assiness is their business. You allowing it to ruin your holiday is yours. Has someone disappointed you? Let yourself get over it. Today. Why not?
Life is short. Be good to yourself. And each other.
Blessings to you and yours! You taking the time to check in and share my notes and your comments means the world to me. xo
p.s. this is a photo of my family circa 1978. Thank you Mami and Tati for everything you did to make our memories of Christmastime so special. Vesele Vianoce!